I totally love this one. It really explains what we as Military Girlfriends have to go through.

kkgjessica wrote:

I love this one too! It is truly hard to be a military girlfriend.

ladies it is difficult for us all but by being wives we are binded and committed not only to our husbands but to the military itself for they hold our moments past present and future in there hands and with every second that goes by we hope pray that they come back safe==alive. being a wife is not ez we as wives have duties also we cant just leave....breakup.    as a duty we move around ,,where he goes we go baggage kids and all.we live with the battle scares the stories that drive our men insane...there is just sooo much to think about if you are considering being a military wife....it has been so hard    its all 50/50 chances

No sympathy here. That is true in every aspect of life. If you are a girlfriend and your civilian boyfriend dies, sorry, but the family gets it all. Boyfriends and girlfriends come and go (unfortunately husbands and wives do now too but that is a different story), so that si why you get nothing.

I understand that family (and relationships like boyfriend/girlfriend) suffer at the hands of the military, but we live in an all-volunteer day and age. No one forced hubby or boyfriend to enlist or commission, and no one stopped a marriage from taking place. Should marriage in the military be restricted? Perhaps. But I feel this way with all marriages.

I think waiting periods should be established for marriage. Register for marriage license and the marriage cannot take place for 6 months or a year (someone can decide). Too many people, especially soldiers, jump into marriage, especially before deployment.

Why else do you think there are just as many divorce lawyers outside military bases as there are used car dealerships, pawnshops, and cash advance centers?

Very well written... I know exactly how that feels...

Love knows no labels. It does not matter who or what we are as long as we freely love and care. And for what it is worth if you are a wife on a base good luck feeling anymore important than a stranger who walks on. My experiance is that it is nearly impossible to get anything done on base unless my husband is there anyway. In other words he is important to them not me, his wife. It has been said here many times....... we are dependants in the military eyes. More of a problem than anything. So don't feel down because your a g/f. We were all g/fs at one time. You get just as much time with the boyfriends as we do our husbands on a deployment........ none. They belong to the military, the rest of us belong to those who love and support them. I say agian the heart has no room for labels that are given to it. It just loves.

My name is Jessica and i am 18 years old and I live in the OC of California... My boyfriend shane 22 yrs old and is currently in US Army and here is my story...

I met shane in about june of 06 and at the time i was dating his best friend and the 1st time i ever met shane there was something about him and i was drawn to him. So he would always come around and i saw him alot and then our friendship became closer and closer. Then august rolls around and time is up... Its time for him to go to boot camp and it happens to be the same week im going to North Carolina to visit my grandma and the night before i had to leave he told me he had feelings for me and so did i and at this time his best friends and i were DONE so it was ok to like shane back. So he went on with his boot camp in kentucky for 4 months and while he was gone i wrote him 2-3 times a week and sent tons of pictures. Then December 11th he came back for a month and Tuesday the 13th is when it all really began... He kissed me and the next few weeks that he was home we were unbreakable and together all the time and the last few days home we fell in love i let him know i loved him b4 he left again just in case anything were to happen and he said it back. So now my BOYFRIEND is in georgia and its only been a week and a half and im so depressed i have my ups and downs and omg i cant explaib how i feel. Although we talk on the phone everday it kills me not to be able to grab him and kiss him or be there in person and cry with him. We were planning on me moving out there this summer but now hes going to iraq and im an even bigger mess... someone help and talk to me... I have tons and tons of friends but not ones who would completely understand bc they are not gf or wives of military men... I think he is seriously going to be in my life forever... but someone help this is so tough!

thanks
Jessica

I agree...me being a Marine girlfriend is hard as well as all the other girlfriends and they do emphasize more on the whole wife/husband thing...but what about us we hurt just as bad and really don't get credit for the stuff we do or go through! Like the last line said don't forget to pray for us(girlfriends)..... **WHITT**

I have that poem on my computer. And yes it is harder in different ways, and some of the same. We GFs miss our military men just as much as you wives do. But it is a little harder, wondering if he will break up with you just because he is being deployed, or has a PSC. It sucks! This will be my first deployment with my BF of 4 months. Yeah that might not seem like much compared to some of you, but I care about him just as much. I don't know what he will want to do. I know I want to stay with him and be with him, but it's kinda out of my hands. When he goes he will have up to 6 months training in another state then 365 days or more in Iraq. I will be a long time before I see him again. Military girlfriends are rarely thought of, unless you are one, and I am one. I think of all you girls, and I hope you might think of the rest of us too. Just remember you are not alone in this fight, you aren't the first, and you won't be the last to go threw this and to feel this way.

so that one guy (gallagheria) is a f****** a** gf's and bf's should get something for what they have to go through. i'm engaged now but i woukd freak out if i was his gf and knew that if something happened i would get nothing. thats why before he left i had him put everything in my name and is contact info my address.

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i'm not talking about sex i'm talking about respect!!! Not everything is about sex!!! gf's and bf's who have been together for awhile should get something. and no i'm not the only one in his life and just dont like his family and i deserve to know before they do anyway!!!

I think the original post is beautiful, and I do think military gf's are in a unique situation....and I'd even go as far as to say that in some ways, it IS much more difficult than being a wife.

That being said, I do NOT think gf's should receive ANYTHING. That's just silly. And while its extremely hypocritical of me, I do think a waiting period would be a good idea. I bet it would cut 1/2 of the problems we see in military marriages (at LEAST!).

I don't think we should get THINGS, but I would still like to know when something has happened. But! that is why I am in contact with his mother and father, just for that reason, well not just for that reason, but they know how they can get ahold of me 24/7. It is good for GF's and BF's of anyone in the Military should be in contact with there significant others parents. It's just a good idea.


As for the sex thing, yeah sex is nice, but again, its not everything. I like bein able to sit around and vegg all day with my BF and I know I can tell him anything and everything, and we try to talk openly about everything. Communication is the KEY. I'm 22 and its taken me 7 years of dating, 2 physically abusive EXs, and 1 verbaly abusive EX to learn that. I guess we all learn that at different stages in our lives. My turning point was when I was laying on the ground with some old rusty barbed wire (it had been set on the ground) in my leg, and broken nose, and watching my pit bull rip his calf open that I realized, hummmm...sex isn't enough, and I'm too good for this sh!t.